-Tell an individual that is restoring weight that they “look good” or “healthy”. There is a 99% chance we are dissatisfied about the fact that we have “gained weight” and the last thing we need is to be reminded of that. Although it might seem like a smart thing to say since our physical appearance might suggest we are doing well with recovery, that is not the case. Learning to accept and love the changes you see happening to your body while restoring weight is probably the toughest challenge in recovery, and people acting like you are “fixed” since you are no longer underweight just makes things more difficult.
-Converse about topics regarding calories, gaining/losing weight, and body image. This can be extremely triggering and even encourage an individual to use a behavior. I think it should be common sense to refrain from talking about these topics in front of someone who has an eating disorder, but people do it constantly. It is a normal thing for people to express feelings like “feeling fat”, but bringing that up around someone that is constantly obsessing over body image and fighting urges, is probably NOT smart.
-Bring attention to food during meals. In treatment we are not allowed (or supposed) to discuss the food that we are eating. Again, there is a 99% chance we are already thinking 100 different thoughts about what we are consuming so if anything, need to be distracted. This is why it is nice having the support and company of others instead of being alone where I am capable of being more attentive to what I’m eating. All that being said, I would still have no problem with sharing any thoughts or emotions towards my meal, however, just at an appropriate time
-Tell an individual to “just eat”. Oh ya? That is a brilliant idea, I don’t know how I didn’t think of that!!! This is one of the most frustrating things that people tend to suggest and possibly the most idiotic (no offense everyone). That is literally like telling an alcoholic “just don’t drink so much”. If the solution was that simple then these probably wouldn’t be illnesses. I get people are trying to help and just don’t know the right things to say sometimes, but making the illness seem like a quick fix is almost degrading.